You
may be reluctant to investigate your strengths quite simply because
you don't believe that your true self is much to write home about.
Whatever the label-a feeling of inadequacy or "imposter syndrome"
or plain old insecurity-the symptoms are familiar. Despite your
achievements, you wonder whether you are as talented as everyone
thinks you are. You suspect that luck and circumstance, not your
strengths, might explain much of your success. The anxious little
voice in your ear whispers, "When will you be found out?" and, against
your better judgment, you listen.
In part, this explains why, when asked to describe
their strengths, people rarely refer to their natural talents. Instead,
they talk about external things that they have gathered during their
life, such as certificates and diplomas, experiences and awards.
Here is the 'proof' that they have improved themselves, that they
have acquired something valuable to offer.
We don't mean to imply that this fear is entirely negative. After
all, the flip side of insecurity is complacency. We do want to remind
you, however, that if you stop investigating yourself for fear of
how little you might find, you will miss the wonder of your strengths.
We say "remind" because so many of us take our strengths for granted.
We live with them every day, and they come so easily to us that
they cease to be precious. Like the New Yorker who no longer hears
the sirens and the horns, we are so close to our strengths to see
them.
A few years ago Bruce B. won one of America's most prestigious awards
for teachers. According to feedback from his peers, his students,
and their parents, he was brilliant at creating a focused, yet caring
environment for learning. As part of Gallup's study of excellence,
we interviewed him and then gave him feedback on his strengths.
One of his strongest talents was empathy, so we talked to him about
how powerful it was that he could pick up on the feelings of each
student, that he could make each one feel heard and understood.
We described how this theme enabled him to hear the unspoken questions,
to anticipate each student's learning hurdles, and to tailor his
teaching style so that he could find a way around them. We painted
as vivid a picture as we could of how he had cultivated this talent
into a tremendous strength.
When we were done, Bruce sat there with a strange look on his face.
He wasn't surprised. He wasn't intrigued. He didn't even seem particularly
flattered. He was just confused.
"Doesn't everyone do that?" he asked.
The answer, of course, was "No. Everyone doesn't do that, but you
do, Bruce. You do. It's what makes you so very good at what you
do. If every teacher was as empathic as you, every teacher would
be as good as you. And they aren't."
Bruce had fallen into the trap that catches so many of us. He couldn't
help but spot the clues that revealed each student's emotional state.
He couldn't help but respond to the emotions he saw. He couldn't
help but share their pain and rejoice in their successes. And because
he couldn't help it, he didn't value it. It was easy, and so it
was mundane, commonplace, obvious.
We hope that by revealing your five signature themes, we have shown
you that your instinctive reactions to the world around you-those
things that "you can't help but..."-are not mundane or obvious.
On the contrary, your instinctive reactions are unique. They make
you different from everyone else. They make you extraordinary.
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